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Thought For The Day
I don’t have expectations anymore – I have standards.
Respect my time.
Match my energy.
Keep your promises.
Be consistent.
These are my non-negotiable’s!
In work and life, I no longer have expectations, I have standards.
For much of my life, I shape shifted based on other people’s expectations.
As a people pleaser, I expected kindness in return, respect in return for my effort, and consideration in return for my sacrifices. But time and time again, those expectations left me feeling hurt and disappointed.
Here’s what I’ve learned: expectations often depend on others.
Standards, however, depend on me.
Having standards means knowing my worth and setting boundaries. It means saying, “This is how I deserve to be treated,” and standing firm.
It means walking away when someone crosses the line and choosing relationships, work, and situations that align with my values.
When I stopped chasing validation and started honoring my standards, everything changed.
I am no longer bending to please others or waiting for them to meet my expectations.
Instead, I hold myself accountable to my own standards—and the right people, opportunities, and outcomes naturally follow.
If you’ve ever felt walked over, unheard, or unseen, I want to remind you:
• Your time is valuable.
• Your voice matters.
• Your boundaries deserve respect.
Raise your standards, and you’ll stop settling for less than you deserve.
It’s not about being rigid or unkind; it’s about creating a life where you feel valued, respected, and empowered.
Choose standards over expectations and take back control of our joy.
Think About
Source: Lan Phan, Community of Seven, from StephenTeti
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